Being raised by a single parents is one of the most challenging thing and traumatic thing for most children in the African setting. Most of these kids raised by single mom most times turn out to be exceptional because it is believed that they have gone through had phases in their lives and therefore tend to appreciate life better. Below are some qualities you are bound to learn to learn of you are raised by a strong single mother:
1. You learn the value of independence
You need not a man to take of you and pay your bills, you surprisingly turn out to be a super strong woman with wonderful qualities because you have learnt from your single mom on the basics of keeping a home alive and functioning. You learn that you can build a home, raise kids, cook, and do the dishes all while having a thriving career.
2. You learn the meaning of unconditional love
Seeing your mom sacrifice so much for you and your siblings with little or no complaint, you learn unconsciously the meaning of unconditional love and you will take such love to your new home someday.
3. You learn how to love yourself
You learn how to walk away from the things that are not meant for you, you learn how to keep going even when the whole world is against you, and you learn how to believe in yourself when everyone is doubting you. You learn that bad grades, heart breaks and failures don’t define you; what defines you is how you bounce back from all the setbacks and how hard you fight for the life you want.
4. You learn that you can be both strong and soft
Being a single mother requires a lot, one of which is how to control your emotions. And when this is done your kids unconsciously learn how to do the same too. Strong mothers are usually very sensitive they just hide it better, but you saw your mom silently cry over your pain, or stay up all night taking care of you when you were sick, or the nights she couldn’t sleep because something was troubling you.
5. You learn that it’s not easy being a woman
You learn that your opinion will be discounted, that you will be taken lightly when you’re being serious, but you will also learn that you can stand out in a crowd and force everyone to listen to your voice and accept your ideas. You learn that what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.
6. You learn never to look back
You learn to let all the “what ifs”go. You learn not to look back and wonder why life turned upside down. You just keep looking forward and let the past redeem itself. You learn that everything that happened got you to where you belong even if it is nothing you ever wished for.
7. You learn the importance of patience and faith
You learn that God is looking out for you and your struggles, that everything will be OK in the end. You learn to be patient with life, patient with timing, patient with success and patient with problems. You learn that patience is strength.
8. You learn how to create your own happiness
You can find happiness in a difficult life. You can still be happy even if you are carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders. My mom taught me that I can always find something to smile about all I have to do is look closer.
10. You learn how to be a good parent
You’ve been raised by a mom who showed you how to truly take care of a family, who showed you that hard work pays off, who showed you that you can love someone unconditionally. She showed you how to be protective, loving, kind, compassionate, strong and resilient.