Girls are fond of sticking with friends who fail to tell them the truth even though they usually say, ‘I want a friend who will be honest with me’, deep down in their mind they wish he/she would just hush up.
As girls, we try so hard to fit into what we think we’re supposed to be, and that leads to a lot of unnecessary anxiety. My friends and I seemed to be in a constant state of angst, unsure of how to follow our dreams while still fulfilling the role of sweet, young girl. There were so many times I got taken advantage of as a young person, whether it be s3xually, emotionally, or at school.
If I miraculously invented a time machine, I’d say some things I know would help me. Here are five truths I wish someone told me:
If You Feel Uncomfortable, Just Leave
You’re going to be in situations that you feel are very wrong, but you’re going to stay because you don’t want to make a fuss. I’m going to ask you to stand up for yourself in these situations. Bad relationship senior year? LEAVE. Creepy boss? LEAVE. Weird party? LEAVE. You are autonomous and you never have to stay in something you don’t like.
The Hard Times Actually Do Get Better
I know the you don’t believe anyone who tries to comfort you with this cliché, but I’m telling you it will get better. Do you know why? Because you’ll get better at handling the ups and downs of life. You’re going to think about ending your life, but you shouldn’t waste your energy. Keep fighting, because this rough patch only temporary and is crucial to the story of your life.
You’re More Beautiful Than You Know
You don’t think you’re beautiful. All you see are your flaws- that pimple on your nose, they way your stomach pouches, the droop in your right eyelid. But you are beautiful. You’re going to look back in fifteen years and say, “Wow! Why didn’t I realize it?”
You Have To Learn To Make Decisions On Your Own
I know you are paralyzed with indecision because you feel that every move you make will change your entire life. That’s too much pressure! I want to take some of that burden off of your shoulders- one decision will not make or break you. Everything you do serves a purpose, so make a decision and let it go. Don’t torture yourself wondering if you made the “right” choice.
Stress Will Always Be There So You Have To Learn How To Deal
I understand that things don’t feel right. This isn’t the life that you thought you were going to have when you were a little girl. That’s okay. Plans change, life changes, it’s never perfect. There isn’t a “right” way to do anything. The truth is, you’re always going to feel stressed – you just need to learn how to get through it.