It is absolutely unacceptable for a man to batter a woman black and blue or the other way round. Despite the domestic violence, some people will not speak out nor will they quit the relationship. They endure. They report to their religious leaders and family members who usually encourage them to stay. This is wrong. They are not the ones who gets rape when he is drunk or who gets beaten every night when he is angry. This is same with your boyfriend.
Most victims stay back in this abusive relationship because of one reason or the other, some say family, others say love, some for their children. My friends, whatever reason you think it is wrong to stay in abusive relationship whether verbally or physically.
Ladies, it’s okay to walk away, it’s okay to be safe, it’s okay to want to live. Do not settle, do not stay if he hits you.
Here are 5 reasons why you should quit and abusive relationship.
1. He will kill you one day
There have been many stories were husbands have beaten their wives to the extent that they died. That is extreme. You do not want to be in that situation. Your children need you alive to take care of them. So, if you have made effort and waited for him to change and he refuses, just quit.
2. You will not escape emotional torment
Many women are being beaten by their husbands but they cover it with makeup. They laugh and they smile but the emotional torment they are going through is unbearable. Do not wait until you break down before you run away. In fact, the only time they are happy is when they leave home.
3. You cannot fix him
If you stay thinking he is going to change, you are absolutely wrong. He is not going to change even if you pray from today till tomorrow. You cannot fix him. If it means leaving home to temporarily lodge in a Lagos hotel, you should.
4. It is good for your sanity and well-being
If you are going through domestic violence and you keep quiet. it will definitely affect your mental health and general wellbeing. You will be very worried and scared of your husband. It will become a cat and mouse relationship. Save yourself from that stress.
5. You will be safe
You and your children will be safe if you leave an abusive relationship. You owe them that responsibility.